This So Called Friends

i know you have all suffered at one time or the other at the hands of your so called friends. yeah that's right, the guys you do the cool things with, the not so cool things, stupid things even. now am an adamant believer in friendship or i used to be, u read right, various incidences have made me loose faith in friends. i used to think that friendship unlike today's marriage is for forever, more so when you've known a guy for 20+ years, well i was dead wrong. i know people change but the rate at which am blacklisting my friends is alarming, am even worried i may have no friends in the near future. you must be wondering what am getting at, well i wont keep you waiting, Have you ever loaned money to your friends??? i can almost hear you cursing and so i know we are in the same boat, right? Friends and Money...huh. now if you did and they actually paid you back, keep them close, if otherwise, who am i to tell you what you what to do, after all it was your money, in my case, but feel free to kick their butts, coz thats what i'd do and am doing. if you are yet to loan them cash, piece of free advice PLEASE DONT. i have come to learn that albeit in the hard way, friendship and money dont mix, not loans, gifts maybe. if you are wondering what insipired this, well of late i loaned one of my so called buddies a cool several Gs, now am not Redcross or something but there is this part of me  that wants to be true to my friends, u know the so called in times of want and in times of plenty. take note "Buddy" not even friend, i'd like to believe that buddy denotes even a more close relationship, u know, the guys who have seen you grow, the guys you tell your dreams, your aspirations, the guys whose flaws you readily overlook. well you get the picture, only i should have done like a preliminary or pilot test, the kind done by researchers to test the reliability of their research instrument.....maybe i should have loaned the guy some insignificant amount just to check his trustability( forgive the english, the fact that i used to school in a government primary school coupled with the fact that i used to sit near the window which was just across the teachers kitchen whose delicious scents made sure that most of my attention was paid to the rumbling in my stomach especially whenever i'd imaging the tasty dishes that were being prepared and remember that my dish box was full of "githeri", anyway i digress)...where were we?...oh, so i handed the guy my few cool Gs and he made numerous vows to pay them back as soon as he got back on his feet, well its been months now and we've been arguing to the point of falling out. i mean if i knew he'd act like a jerk,ningeacha anichukie bila pesa yangu.Thing is the dude is working and i aint, tena i so used to trust him but i guess the Kikuyu proverb " Kiura Kiaringio rui kiugaga nikio kieringia was lost on me" ( when a frog is assisted to cross a river, it thinks it did the crossing on its own) was lost on me. The guy used to lenga my calls and sms's and i had to travel all the way to shagz just to confront him. the other day i bumbed into him in a club flashing the latest mobile phone and the son of gun had the audacity to insinuate that he is better man since he was drinking alcohol while i was sipping a soda,Seriously WTF!!!! reminds me of a storo ffrom facebook, where a lady loaned her friend a cool 30Gs,( With this kinda Sun??) and its been years and her friend hasn't paid her back. when it comes to money friends are not the only enemies, even family are some of the worst dentors, they just assume that you were doing them a favour. Piece of advice to those who thinbk loans are gifts, if u want favours use the word "give me" but should you use the word " loan me" , according to the Oxford dictionary a loan is a "sum of money that is borrowed and expected to be paid back." So if you have a loan from your friends, i got only one thing to tell you.....KUKOPA NI KULIPA, U USE U PAY!!!  maybe we should gang up and form a Debt Collecting Company and watch the sons of b***** suffer as we sell of their assets, i'd enjoy that,(just kidding, or am i? what  financial hell have you suffered in the hands of your friends??? Have a Debt free week, wont you??